In three weeks, we will go to the information session for adoption at Cradle, an adoption agency in Evanston. I am very excited!
Pete and I have thought about adoption for a long time. It was not exactly our 'mutual' decision at the same time. We have both thought about adoption individually before we met but after we got married, this idea got strengthened day by day.
We are still trying to get pregnant, and it has not been 'just like that' easy. We had our moment of frustration and at times, I got jealous when I heard friends getting pregnant.
How much and how far are we willing to try? After having a long talk with Pete, we reached a mutual understanding...we will try to the extend of not getting needles or such. I was more concerned about Pete's feeling, after all, he doesn't have his 'own' children. He was surprised by my thinking and told me that to him, Calum is his own child. That really comforted me in a biggest way.
While trying, I wanted to start the adoption process. There are lots of things to learn and think. We want to adopt an older boy~about Calum's age for several reasons. 1. He can be Calum's playmate. 2. Older children have less chance to be adopted. After listening to my rationales, My friends started to tell me some horror stories about adoption especially older children. However, I tell myself. Even your own children can have the same problems as adopted children. Why makes them less lovable and more problems than your own? And how would make any accomplishment by only worrying about problems? We will deal with it when it comes.
I know I am being innocent. So I am learning and reading and researching every information I can find. I will find supportive group. I know it is not going to be easy.
Fortunately, Pete and Calum are very supportive. Calum will play an extremely role in the adoption. Three of us will have to work together to welcome another child to our family.
I am writing so much but I have not yet started the adoption process yet. I need to have a reality check so I don't get too emotional about this. But I am excited and cannot wait to go to the information session in three weeks!
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